Wondering whether couples counselling or relationship therapy  is right for you or your partner is extremely common. Many people delay seeking support because they are unsure their problems are “serious enough”, or because one partner feels hesitant about therapy. In reality, relationship psychotherapy and couples counselling  are not only for relationships in crisis. They are often most effective when people feel uncertain, stuck, or emotionally disconnected. At Tandem Thera

In recent years, attachment language has exploded across social media: Anxious. Avoidant. Fearful avoidant. Dismissive avoidant. These terms are now everywhere - except in the place they were originally meant to live: inside compassion, curiosity and the nervous system . As a relationship therapist, I see every day how easily these labels can be misused, and how far they’ve drifted from their purpose. Attachment styles were designed to help us connect, not disconnect. They we

We often confuse the rush of chemistry with the comfort of safety. At first, they can feel identical. Your heart races. Thoughts of them take over your mind. You feel alive in a way you haven’t felt in years. It’s intoxicating. You call it chemistry. You tell yourself, “This is love.” But chemistry isn’t always true connection. Sometimes, it’s simply recognition. Your nervous system identifies a familiar energy - not necessarily because it’s healthy, but because it feels like

Every couple experiences moments that feel repetitive. You find yourself in the same argument, just on a different day. Whether the topic is money, children, chores, or feelings of unappreciation, it often circles back to the same painful issues. If you’re searching for answers to “why do we keep having the same fight?” or “how to stop arguing in a relationship,” you are not alone. This is a common reason couples seek therapy. This blog explores what lies beneath those repe